“You cannot teach a man anything. You can only help him to discover it within himself” - Galileo
“Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” - Sir Winston Churchill
“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” - Maya Angelou
“When you’re surrounded by people who share a collective passion around a common purpose anything is possible.” - Howard Schultz, Founder, Starbucks
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” - Maya Angelou
Useful tools to complement your new thinking partner.
This tool, known as the Nirvana Letter, is designed to provide you with clarity to two key questions that we all ask ourselves:
We all seem to have a vague notion of what we want in life yet many of us find it hard to break it down into a succinct description. This tool is designed to help with that problem.
The idea is to write a letter to someone you totally trust from the vantage point of a number of years in the future: 10, 15 or 20 years – or even longer.
Imagine that you are looking back to the present and that in the interim you have lived a perfect life. You are to recount all that you achieved, the sort of life that you have led and to describe the professional and personal goals you have attained. Keep this within the bounds of reality. For example, if you have made £10 million 15 years from now, you have done so through work and not by winning the lottery!
Start by describing where you are while writing the letter and the date in the future on which you are writing it. Then, as if you were counting backwards to the present, describe the events that led you to where you are. As you look back over your life to the present date, outline the major milestones you see.
This is a very powerful exercise. Once you have finished the letter you will realise that it has taken the form of a road map from the present to the future – but, of course, in reverse.
We are naturally accustomed to contemplating the future from the present. But this makes our dreams and desires appear distant, sometimes a little vague and unrealistic, and by consequence unattainable.
However, when you ask someone to imagine that their dreams have already become a reality by doing the dreaming in reverse, by imagining that future has already arrived, the wish list begins to have substance. This encourages us to regard them as achievable, engendering the belief of I can = I will.
Since the Nirvana Letter requires the steps along the way to be identified, it becomes a genuine road map to the ideal future. It will help to clearly define what is important to you and what core values you hold. It helps delineate the differences between what we have and what we seek. It thus helps us define what we want and what we need to do in order to get it.
What revelations will be in yours? Let your imagination open you up to the possibilities of all your potential, of all you are capable of being.